Reading: The Wisdom Of People Smart Balance (Video Slides)

The Wisdom Of People Smart Balance 

by Henry Reyenga

Walk In Your Call

Call-Confidence - God has a purpose for every meeting.

Colossians 2:2 My purpose is that they may be encouraged in heart and united in love, so that they may have the full riches of complete understanding, in order that they may know the mystery of God, namely, Christ

Greet Each Other With A Smile

Different kinds of smiles...all have the "I am blessed to be in your presence” message.

2 Cor. 13:12   Greet one another with a holy kiss.

Prov. 15:30    A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones.

Eager Body Posture

Your posture tells others that you are eager to converse. 

Romans 1:15 That is why I am so eager to preach the gospel also to you who are at Rome.

Resist Interrupting Behavior

Interrupting Behaviors:

Looking at your computer, texting, fidgeting, rubbing your hands, biting your fingernails, twirling your hair, crumbling your napkin...

Control your smart phone! 

Prov. 20:12  Ears that hear and eyes that see--the LORD has made them both.

Learning Attitude Everywhere

Prov. 3:7  Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and shun evil.

Help Others

Go out of your way.

Prov. 3:27-28  Do not withhold good from those who deserve it, when it is in your power to act. Do not say to your neighbor, "Come back later; I'll give it tomorrow”-- when you now have it with  you.

Do Not Monetize Any Person

Prov. 23:5    Cast but a glance at riches, and they are gone, for they will surely sprout wings and fly off to the sky like an eagle. 

Prov. 23:6  Do not eat the food of a stingy man, do not crave his delicacies;(7) for he is the kind of man who is always thinking about the cost.

Promote The Cause Of The Destitute

Prov. 31:8    "Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute.” 

Moderation

Careful moderation is people smart in ministry.

Prov. 23:20-21    Do not join those who drink too much wine or gorge themselves on meat, for drunkards and gluttons become poor, and drowsiness clothes them in rags. 

Watch Your Mouth

Christian leaders language.

Proverbs 4:24   Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips. 

Don't Put Down Anyone Even Your Enemies

Words, Humor, Actions

Prov. 24:17    Do not gloat when your enemy falls; when he stumbles, do not let your heart rejoice,  or the LORD will see and disapprove and turn his wrath away from him. 

Be Optimistic 

Stay on the "sunny side of life” with the future and opportunities before you.

Prov. 12:14    From the fruit of his lips a man is filled with good things as surely as the work of his hands rewards him.

Proverbs 4:25   Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you.

No Flirting

Proverbs 5:15 Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well.

Integrity Encounters

Proverbs 6: 16-19  There are six things the LORD hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers.

You Can't Save Everyone

God has a plan for everyone; respect that.

Proverbs 9:8  Do not rebuke a mocker or he will hate you; rebuke a wise man and he will love you.

Listen More Than Talk

60% - 40% Guideline

Proverbs 18:13  He who answers before listening-- that is his folly and his shame.

Don't Be Scheming

Transparent people encounters are best.

Proverbs 10:10  He who winks maliciously causes grief, and a chattering fool comes to ruin.

Become A Student Of People Smart In Ministry

Review and review. Read more.

Proverbs 10:32  The lips of the righteous know what is fitting, but the mouth of the wicked only what is perverse.

No Gossip

Protect your neighbor's name.

Proverbs 11:13  A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret.

Practice Kindness

Kind pastors are loved, but not phony kindness.

Proverbs 11:16  A kindhearted woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth.

Look To Give And To Bless

Notice how to recognize.

Proverbs 11:25  A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.

Lose A Quarreling And Comparing Attitude 

Pride rots relationships.

Proverbs 13:10-13  Pride only breeds quarrels, but wisdom is found in those who take advice. He who scorns instruction will pay for it, but he who respects a command is rewarded.

Lose Self-Destructive Attitudes

Do not bring bitterness into your relationships.

Proverbs. 14:1 The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.

Hebrews 12:15 See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.

Do Not Get Side Tracked By Nay Sayers

Proverbs 14:6    The mocker seeks wisdom and finds none, but knowledge comes easily to the discerning.

Proverbs 15:12  A mocker resents correction; he will not consult the wise.

Have Something Encouraging To Say

Encouraging words are needed! 

Proverbs 16:24 Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.

Forgive Quickly And Do Not Take Offense

Vital to healthy encounters.

Proverbs 14:9  Fools mock at making amends for sin, but goodwill is found among the upright.

Lose The Temper

Anger in relationships is usually seen.

Proverbs 14:17 A quick-tempered man does foolish things, and a crafty man is hated.

Proverbs 17:27 A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered.

Learn To Give Gentle Answers

Pray and develop this!

Proverbs 15:1  A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Deposit Toward Your Reputation

Thousands of encounters matter.

Proverbs 22:1  A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.

Avoid Class Warfare: Help Everyone

Christian leaders show no favoritism.

Proverbs 14:24  The wealth of the wise is their crown, but the folly of fools yields folly.

Proverbs 17:5  He who mocks the poor shows contempt for their Maker; whoever gloats over disaster will not go unpunished.

Loose Lips Sink Ships

Confidential relationships.

Proverbs 17:9  He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.

Do Not Be A Divisive Personality

Proverbs 17:14 Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.

Pay Attention If You Offended Someone

Especially in your family.

Proverbs 18:19   An offended brother is more unyielding than a fortified city, and disputes are like the barred gates of a citadel.