Love & Logic Principles

1.     Belief in the Infinite Value of People

2.     Self (Staff/Volunteer/Parent) Care is Not Selfish

3.     Communicate Respect to Children

4.     Choices Lead to Responsibilities

5.     Share Power/Control with Children

6.     Consequences Do The Teaching

7.     Responsibility To Children; Not Responsibility For Children

8.     Children Do As Much Thinking As Parents/Staff/Volunteers


Enforceable Statements to Set Limits

Telling a Child What to Do
(Difficult to Enforce)

I Message:

Telling the Child What You Will Do

 (Enforceable Statements often start with “I…”)

 

Please sit down. I'm going to start now.

I'll begin as soon as you are seated.

Please be quiet. It's time to begin.

 

I'm glad to start as soon as you show me you are ready.

Open your Bibles to page 54.

I'll be starting at page 54.

 

Don't sharpen your pencil while I'm talking.

 

I allow people to sharpen pencils when I am not giving directions.

 

You can't go to the restroom until I finish the directions.

 

Feel free to go to the restroom when I'm not giving directions.

Keep your hands to yourself.

 

Feel free to stay with us when you can keep your hands to yourself.

 

Don't talk to me in that tone of voice!

 

I'll listen as soon as your voice is as calm as mine.

Write an Unenforceable statement:

 

 


Rewrite as an Enforceable statement:

 

 

 


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